There are a few things I have discovered at the age of twenty-two that I want to share.You can always add to a conversation at the appropriate time, but you never can erase words once spoken.
Our speech is governed at least in part by the way we think.And thinking is the engine that pulls along every emotion you have.So many of us me included have never abandoned childish ways of thinking, and therefore we find ourselves overwhelmed with childish emotions and childish speech.The Big Girl knows that her capacity to think is greatest asset. Mature thinking produces mature living, and of course childish thinking produces childish living.Can you spot the problem:
Children don't think things through to their natural conclusion.They see only what is immediate.
Children don't think about how their actions will affect others.
Children are unable to see more than one side to any situation.
Children take things personally. " she hurt my feelings" "he hit me"
Children really like it best when "it's all about me"
Children are better manipulators than negotiators. They learn early how to manipulate and whom to manipulate.
Children like fairy tales where good guys always win, bad guys always lose, and everyone lives happily ever after.
Children tire easily and allow fatigue to affect their general attitude and demeanor.
Children do not know what is best for them, although they may protest loudly when they fail to get what they want.
All right here is how Big Girl should think. Lets see if you notice a difference, I saw a Big difference.
Big Girls think things through to their natural conclusion.They see not only the present but the future as well.
Big Girls think about how their actions will affect others.
Big Girls can see more than one side to any situation.
Big Girls don't take things personally.They understand someone can only hurt you emotionally if you let them.
Big Girls understand that life is never "all about me".
Big Girls are good, fair, and reasonable negotiators.
Big Girls may like fairy tales, but they like true stories, too, and are well aware of the difference.
Big Girls may tire, but they don't allow their fatigue to control their general attitude and demeanor.
Big Girls know what is best for them and are disciplined enough to go after it.
The Word of God makes this all clear in Philippians chapter 4
Well this what I am working on, I want to be a Big Girl. Only then can I be all that God wants me to be.
This came out of the book big girls don't whine by Jan Silvious
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It is a high calling being a Big Girl. This applies to men as well. Sometimes it is difficult to see past our current circumstances to see what our future may hold. And in those times when we cannot fathom what the future may be we need to have faith in our Lord. I am guilty of being a little boy at times and still do to this day. I do strive to be a "big boy" but do slip.
Big Boys recognize that they are expected to stumble and fall and it is honorable to stand back up and try again; but in God's way and not their own.
Thanks for sharing Mater :)
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